What Does It Mean to be Elegant?

As I progress through my early twenties, I have decided to start making progress towards my lifelong goal of being elegant. I feel like it is part of my heritage; when I look upon my memories of my grandmother, she is the epitome of elegance, and I wish to emulate her. I have put some thought into it and have drawn up a list of parameters, both vague and specific, on the details under which to conduct my life.

 To be elegant means to be graceful in movement and stylish in appearance; an elegant woman is… 

  • fashionable, keeping up on current trends while having own style, combining clothes and accessories into something magnificent. Dresses are a frequent feature of her attire, as are jewelry (watches included), hats, gloves, petticoats, long jackets, and heels. She also has a bag filled with all kinds of
  • known for a particular perfume that is forever associated with her. My great-grandfather told me that every woman should have a scent that is “them”. I took his advice seriously, partially because the elegant grandmother I mentioned earlier wore a distinct enough perfume that even now, years after her passing, when I smell something like it I think of her.
  • owner of a beautiful smile. She has straight, white teeth, and she shows them often.
  • healthy in body shape, a wearer of make-up, and a maintainer of a good hairstyle.

To be elegant means to be dignified; an elegant woman is…

  • light-hearted, humorous, and open.
  • a purveyor of many friendships.
  • ingenious and well read, knowledgable on matters of math and science.
  • simple and neat.
  • tasteful in her interactions with other people, handwriting, wine, and food.
  • effective, refined, dignified, and beautiful.
  • known for expressing restraint, and demonstrating precision and exactness.
  • intuitive, smooth, swift, and functions in all settings and situations with ease.
  • environmentally conscious.
  • a good cook, and can decorate/arrange food in a pleasing way.
  • physically active, perhaps involved in snowboarding, boating, or dancing.
  • artistic, with an emphasis on painting, photography, and writing (including writing letters to people by hand).

To be elegant means to have a house that extends the elegance of a person; this home is…

  • internally and externally minimalistic but luxurious, insinuating wealth without being excessive.
  • exceptionally fine in the kitchen: glass bottles for pouring drinks, cups of flawless glass or crystal (with some gold trim, perhaps) to pour drinks into, vibrantly colored plates, matching bowls, true silverware.
  • made up of themed rooms. Plush carpet coats most of the house’s floors, candles of every kind (in flower “nests”, in candelabras, in candle chandeliers) line the rooms, and antique objects, tapestries, compasses, furniture, seashells, fancy pillows, and such are all mandatory accessories. Silk and lace are the materials of choice.
  • decorates with a plethora of art: paintings, (old) photographs of people and flowers, abstract (colorful) vectors, photographs of landscapes and outer space, Japanese art, to name a few.
  • capable of offering pleasant smelling, expensive cigars for guest (though the lady herself does not smoke).
  • capable of housing only one car per person in the household (excess is of course frowned upon). These cars are of course well maintained, clean, and safe, regardless of age or expense of car.

To be elegant means to love nature and the animals in it; some possibilities include…

  • horses (stable/corral/trails/etc), birds (aviary), butterflies (greenhouse), fish (tropical aquarium; there is even a type of coral named “elegance”), dogs (indoors). All must be well-behaved (within reason).
  • environments for animals that are beautiful.
  • a beautiful garden and other outside environments. This garden has at least fourteen different kinds of flowers, and these flowers are often taken indoors to decorate the rooms.

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